So I guess it's because I'm of that certain age, or maybe because I have a certain type of friends. Or for goodness sake I don't know it could be anything.

I've been invited to like two weddings a month (not including that one in Korea which I might have gone to, but alas)

But I was at a wedding this weekend, and pondering both my own good fortune to be invited to my friend's wedding and the misfortune of it not being my own wedding. In between the seafood quiche, and the first dance I suddenly became quiet.

So I thought, what would I do differently. And of course the response is "12 course Chinese banquet, and make sure there's a both a whole roast chicken at the end, of which I'll make sure Chin spits the bones on the floor!"

To which my friend looks at me and says. "Would you invite me to this wedding?" My sheepish response was "If there were only two people going to the wedding, you would be one of them." umm... maybe that wasn't the right answer. Not even the right question right now.

In any case I realized that it wasn't that I wanted to be married. I just wanted to plan a wedding. Which might explain the subconcious need to subscribe to Modern Bride. Said magazine causing a strange look from above mentioned friend.

Oh and yeah, if you're interested to read about really really bizzare gender relations and to see what it's like on the other side. Go read Chiedog's blog and his observations about dating, Chinese Women, American Guys, Chinese American Guys, the company he works for (which I considered working for) and the like.

Be forewarned although I agree with his observations, I don't think his analysis are completely right. In a sense one has to be careful, although it is true as observed by a few people that it is very likely that I would meet a lot of nice Asian women, and have no problem being hooked up. But that's not the point really. If you're looking for that kind of woman, AND one who's spiritually mature and not interested in either, your money, your green card, or anything else exotic.

For that I'll quote match.com:

"Are you a thrill seeker? Do you seek out dates who are very different from you just for the shock value? It can be very exciting to date someone who's exotic because it's so easy - and so much fun - to romanticize about who you think they really are. But getting involved with someone just for the thrill is unfair to both of you. Examine your motives and if you find you're forming relationships on the basis of the thrill factor and not deeper qualities of the person involved, take some steps to break this bad habit immediately."